Sunday, June 5, 2011

MISUNDERSTANDING

When a relationship is just starting up it's fresh and exciting especially when you think you're in love. It takes along time to actually get to know someone because most people put their best side forward when starting off with someone new. If you are with someone truly genuine who shows their whole self from the start then you are truly blessed. When starting a new relationship it's so important to show your true self to your partner so they can love you for who you are and they won't be surprised to find out you're someone else once you move in together. Let's say you both now know each other very well and you're ready to live together. When living with your partner there are many changes that occur. Your differences are what make you love each other but when sharing the same home some sacrifices might need to be made.

Communication is key. Don't assume anything before talking it out with your partner. If there is something on your mind it must be spoken or it will accumulate into a big problem. Listen to their opinion and take it into account before acting on the task at hand. When you live with someone you both need to have a say in what goes on in your home.

Trust your loved one. Without trust you can loose love for one another. Once the trust is broken it's difficult to get back but not impossible. If your both willing to work at trusting each other again and the one who broke the trust is now ready to commit to complete honesty you can still have a successful relationship.

If you have a child together, it changes many aspects of both your lives. There are many challenges to be faced in parenthood as well as marriage or common-law marriage. If you unconditionally love each other, you will be great parents. The worst thing two parents can do is stay together simply because they have a child together. Don't get married because you feel you have to. Get married because you want to see that person every single day for the rest of your life and they make you happy.

There is a big difference between simply saying "I love you" and showing someone you love them. All relationships have their ups and downs and you should always try for the one you love. If you've tried and you've went to couples counseling and you've taken a break or two from each other and now living together once again just saying "I love you" and not showing it, it may be time to re evaluate why you are together.

Many stay together because they're used to each other and they were in love when they met but the love is gone. Both sides in a relationship must feel unconditionally loved in order to continue forward. If you are no longer happy in the relationship you are in, it's best to honestly and seriously talk it over.